Okay so I’m almost 5 months late with this post…but there’s no time like the present right?
Here is my list of 21 things that I’ve learnt in my 21 years of life.
- Parents are generally always rightlisten to them more. They are always looking out for you and want the best for you, even if it doesn’t seem fair at the time you are their baby-they don’t want to see you hurt.
- You can’t rely on people it’s a fact. People will build your hopes up and let you down, they will break promises and say cruel words that will hurt you. Move on and only rely on yourself.
- Spend more time with your grandparentsthey’re not around forever. As a teenager I would want to be out with my friends and would decline going for sleepovers at my grandparents. Grandparents are the nicest people in the world-look after them and make time for them because once they’re gone, believe me you’ll regret it.
- Best friends will prove themselves and fake friends will too. Parent’s will spot your fake friends miles before you do and you won’t listen to them but one day the fake friends will be gone and you will realise who your real friends are.
- Change is good and sometimes necessary, so take the jump, make the move and embrace change in your life.
- Saving money is essential want to own a home and car? Want to get married? Want to go to Uni? Start saving as soon as you’re earning, yes it’s nice to treat yourself but while you live at home do you really need to spend all your wages every month? No of course you don’t!
- School/College grades are not everything although they are important. I never went to university and I had a horrible time while I was doing my A-Levels so I did awful at them. But I’m not a failure, I’m 21 and I have a full time job doing something I enjoy, my grades didn’t get me here, my experiences did.
- Mental health is so important don’t let anyone tell you it isn’t. If you are not feeling okay then ask for help and don’t decline it when someone offers it to you. I had a hard time when I was 16-18 and I shut people off, it did me no favours and honestly, getting help is the best way forward!
- Puppies are hard work but worth it.
- It’s okay to say NO don’t let people put pressure on you to do things, if you don’t have the time or you don’t want to do it then say no! But don’t get lazy, don’t say no because it’s easy! Challenge yourself.
- Crying is fine and sometimes it’s the best form of medication.
- Being nice is nice, you will get so much further in life from being polite and kind to people, nastiness is never okay and why would anyone want to be around a nasty person? Being nice brings more opportunities, jobs, friendships, relationships.
- Everyone has bad days how are you supposed to appreciate the good days if you don’t know what a bad day is?
- Forgive but don’t forget life is too short to hold a grudge, forgive people.
- Nobody is perfect not even that really popular girl at school or the mum who drives around in that fancy BMW SUV with perfect acrylics, fresh makeup every morning and a tan like she’s spent 3 weeks abroad. Everyone has underlying problems.
- Be respectful, people come from so many different backgrounds, do not judge or be rude to them, respect them and their property and you will go further in life.
- Enjoy yourself you’re only young once, before you know it your life will have taken a whole different direction, live in the moment and do crazy things!
- Love at every opportunity it makes the world a better place, love your family, your friends, your partner, your job and let them know! Shout it from the rooftops!
- Experience is better than material so spend your money wisely. Places you visit/ things you do will have longer lasting memories for you compared with what shoes you bought when you were 18 and going for a night out, or how your nails looked for that Christmas Party.
- Hard work reaps reward so put your all into everything that you do. If you want something enough then work for it, nothing gets handed to you on a plate.
- Nobody knows what they’re doing, in the end everyone is winging this thing we call ‘life’.